to all you doggie mamas, kitty mamas and kiddie mamas, too !!!
and a special shout out to all the pit bull mamas…
I always felt like a motherless kid. I was certain that some day my REAL parents would come for me SOME DAY (they had obviously left me temporarily on the doorstep of this strange people). My blood relative mother was mentally ill, hostile, abusive and downright mean and cruel. She eventually chose meanness over kindness in her life, which is too bad and too sad. I always wanted to have a mother that other kids seemed to have. One who was kind, who listened, who comforted, who took care of me, and had my back (supported me). Instead I had someone who blamed me for things that were not my fault, made me responsible (babysitter) at the age of 2-3 years old, and focused all her energies on the negative. For a few minutes, maybe an hour or two in Florida, she did one day really seem to get that she did the same thing with me that her mother did with her, which was favor her brother as she favored my brother (who to her could do no wrong no matter what he did or did not do). He was all good and I was no good, to her. When I asked her to choose to STOP being abusive and hurting me in the 90’s, she decided, NAH. It was MORE important to her to tell the world how terrible I was, to lie about me, and eventually to turn those who wanted to be turned against me. Those who believed her lies, did. Others, chose not to believe her lies.
I mourn the lack of a relationship I now have with my nieces and nephew which is a direct result of my mother’s toxic legacy. Just because my mother was hateful and their father went along with her, her legacy to her ONLY DAUGHTER, was we shall ban you and evict you from the family because you refused to be a scapegoat any longer. No longer a doormat. No longer a victim of her rage and hostility. You dare to stand UP against her rage, OUT you go. You do not belong here.
Terrible price to pay and NO MOTHER should ask her very own daughter to pay it. A mother is supposed to be someone who is a saint of unconditional love. To me, that was my grandmother. She loved ME no matter what. And also, I have friends like that.
Therefore, I say today, that MOTHERS come in various different unique forms, not just blood relatives who bear babies thru their bodies. To the Mothers who embody all that motherhood is SUPPOSED to be, I applaud you all and I have to say that many many doggie mamas exhibit these wonderful qualities. Like the dogs we love, who offer comfort and healing and love with no end, these are the REAL MAMAS.
Thank YOU !!!!